Like Parent, Like Child

We've previously discussed both fantasies and realities of adults being with their parents and we've also talked about steprelations getting together. Mark Shrayber at uproxx.com brings us "Here's Why So Many People Have Sex Fantasies  About Their Stepmoms"...

If given the chance, most of us would not have sex with our stepmoms.

True, but most can mean slightly over 50%, which can leave almost 50% who would.

That’s not just because many people have a deep and abiding respect for their parents’ relationships, but also because it’s just an icky thought.

It's not an icky thought for everyone. What can happen is that if your stepmother was regularly present in your life from an early age, you might develop the Westermarck Effect when it comes to her.

Have sex with the woman who regularly beds down with your dad (or mom)? No! Gross! Let’s move on! Right? Wrong.

Yes, wrong. How many people have been attracted to a sibling's lover/partner/spouse? How many people attracted to women have wanted a mother and daughter? Or sisters? How many people attracted to men have wanted a father and son? Or brothers? Plenty. And sometimes they are wanted back.

Because, friends, here’s an important thing you need to know: Regardless of our feelings about our stepmothers in general (and they tend to be complex, at least according to that one movie with Julia Roberts and Susan Sarandon), people seem to really love porn that centers on the stepson/stepdaughter/stepmom dynamic.

How much do people love stepmom porn? Enough that it topped the list of PornHub’s most searched keywords, making it the most popular theme users searched for. Everything else? Passe. And even adult performers are getting into it. When I talked to Alix Lynx at the Adult Entertainment Expo she said that a lot of the content she creates is labeled with the “step” prefix because she knows that incest is what consumers crave (much like plants crave the electrolytes found in Gatorade.)

Well, partially true, yes. There is a lot of demand for "incest porn" and consanguinamory erotica, but some services have restrictions that won't allow it, so "mom" becomes "stepmom" and "sister" becomes "stepsister." But there are also a lot of people who find themselves attracted to their real life steprelations, and whether or not they actually get sexual with them, they might enjoy erotica or porn with that theme.

As we have previously, we pause here to remind people that, like most media, porn usually isn't able to depict reality. Real relationships happening every day between step and actual blood relations are usually very different from what you will find in incest porn.

Just like the whole “calling your partner ‘daddy’ in bed” thing the desires for one’s stepmom have nothing to do with actually getting it on with someone who’s almost like family (“She is family, son”).

Except sometimes it does.

Sure, it may be weird to find that your partner has a lovingly crafted playlist of SMILF videos on their ‘puter, but it also doesn’t mean that you have to sit down and have a chat with them about their interests (or call their stepmom to let them know that, hey, no big deal but someone’s hot for a non-blood relation who has made their dad feel things no one ever has before).

It's generally good for partners to discuss their fantasies, turn-ons, and fetishes. And yes, fantasies and turn-ons might work in someone's media of choice even though they have no actual desire for their family member. Some people who like depictions of siblings have none of their own. What someone likes to watch isn't necessarily what they want to do (and some who do have no interest in watching others, real or fictional, though most would like to see non-pornographic visibility increased). But there are people who have that desire to be with a family member, and some of them already have been there.

Watch all the stepmom porn you want, don’t proposition your actual stepmom, and everything will come out right in the end.

Sigh. Unless you're talking about cheating or something along those lines, stop telling adults who they should and should not proposition. Whether anyone likes it or not, some marriages are at least partially open, and some stepmoms get together with their adult stepchildren without anyone cheating. It does happen, and it shouldn't be shocking. Some of you reading this know because either you were involved or were close to someone who was. As always, you can tell us about it (see comment instructions below).